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By Desiree R. James,
MBA, LISW
gittinmyishtogether.com
Portions of this content were created with assistance from OpenAI’s ChatGPT.
Every January, we make promises to eat better, work out, save more, and stress less. But let’s be honest—it’s hard to stick to resolutions. In fact, 23% of people give up in the first week, and by the end of the year, only 9% succeed according to author Richard Batts from OSU.EDU article “Why Most New Year’s Resolutions Fail.”
Here’s the good news: It doesn’t have to be that way. This year, let’s rewrite the story. You don’t need to be perfect, you just need to take small, meaningful steps daily. Ready? Let’s make this your best year yet with these 10 simple, doable steps.
1. Focus on Intentions, Not Resolutions.
Resolutions can feel like a to-do list you have to check off. Instead, think about intentions. What kind of life do you want to create? For example, instead of “I want to lose weight,” try “I want to feel healthy and strong.” Intentions come from the heart, not outside expectations.
Try This: Write down one intention and put it where you’ll see it daily, like your mirror or phone lock screen. Why Your New Year’s Resolutions Fail
2. Honestly Reflect on Last Year.
Before diving into new goals, take a moment to look back. What worked for you last year? What didn’t? This isn’t about beating yourself up. It’s about learning. Celebrate your wins, even the tiny ones, and take note of the lessons from what didn’t go as planned.
“What’s one thing you’re proud of from last year? What’s one thing I want to improve this year?”
3. Choose a Mantra to Guide You.
Mantras are like pep talks you give yourself. They help you stay grounded and motivated when things get tough. Choose something simple, like “I am enough” or “Progress, not perfection.” Repeat it often—it works.
Write your mantra on a sticky note and put it on your desk or dashboard.
4. Surround Yourself with People Who Inspire You.
Who you spend time with matters. Seek out people who challenge you, lift you, and make you feel like you can conquer the world. They don’t even have to be people you know. Follow inspiring figures on social media, read their books, or listen to their podcasts.
Be inspired by women like Fawn Weaver of Uncle Nearest Distillery (her story) and Pinky Cole of Slutty Vegan (read about her journey). Who inspires you?
5. Build Rituals That Ground You.
Daily rituals aren’t just routines, they’re reminders of who you want to be. Whether it’s a morning cup of tea, a five-minute meditation, or a gratitude journal, rituals can help you stay focused and calm.
6. Rely on Discipline, Not Just Motivation.
Motivation is great when you have it, but what happens when you’re not feeling it? That’s where discipline comes in. Show up for yourself, even on the hard days. Remember, consistency beats perfection every time.
Fact: It takes about 66 days to form a habit. Stick with it research by Phillippa Lally when she held a Medical Research Council PhD studentship.
7. Make Peace with Feeling Lonely.
Working on yourself can feel isolating at times. Not everyone will understand your goals, and that’s okay. Growth can be lonely, but it’s also worth it. Find a support system that cheers you on, even if it’s just one friend who “gets it.”
Reminder: Loneliness doesn’t last forever, but the confidence you gain from chasing your goals does.
8. Use Social Media as a Tool for Growth.
Social media can inspire or distract you. It all depends on how you use it. Follow accounts that motivate you, mute ones that don’t, and be intentional about how much time you spend scrolling.
9. Celebrate Small Wins.
Don’t wait until you’ve achieved your big goals to celebrate. Every step forward is progress and deserves recognition. Treat yourself to something small like a fancy coffee, a night off, or a mini dance party in your kitchen.
Create a “wins jar.” Every time you hit a milestone, write it on a piece of paper and add it to the jar. At the end of the year, you’ll have a whole collection of accomplishments to look back on.
10. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone.
Growth doesn’t happen when you’re comfortable. Say “Yes” to opportunities that scare you a little, whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, trying a new hobby, or meeting new people. You’ll be amazed at what you can do.
Challenge: This month, try one thing you’ve always wanted to do but felt nervous about. Go for it! You’ve got this.
Let’s Make This Your Year
